181. The Wives Have Confessed: All about physical touch - Poll Answers

Husbands, if you want to know where and how your wife wants to be touched to get turned on, then you have found the right episode. In this episode, we share the poll questions and answers we asked the wives... and we also touch on other fun questions as well relating to women and sexual arousal.

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Transcript

Amy: 0:00

You are listening to the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, where we discuss how to find ultimate intimacy in your relationship. We believe that, no matter how many years you've been married, you can achieve passion, romance, happiness and ultimate intimacy at any stage of your life. Join us as we talk to not only marriage experts, but couples just like yourself and people who are just flat out fun. The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast is for couples who have a good relationship but want to make it even better. 

Nick: 0:42

It's the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast with Nick and Amy and we're going to start us out with something that maybe you can get to know us a little bit better, maybe some funny experience or something. 

Amy: 0:55

Yeah, what are you starting out with? You want me to ask you a question? 

Nick: 0:59

Sure, yeah, ask me a question. 

Amy: 1:06

Okay, let's just put Nick on the spot. 

Nick: 1:09

Oh, I love it, I love being put on the spot. 

Amy: 1:12

Let's see, nick, what is something that you have failed at in life? 

Nick: 1:22

Oh it doesn't have to be me, I've only got like 30 minutes where I've failed at a lot of things. 

Amy: 1:29

No, you haven't, but we have all failed at something. You know what. You know what I've failed at, actually we've failed that. 

Nick: 1:35

We've failed that. We've failed that. The 7-day sex challenge we did. 

Amy: 1:41

Oh, we did. 

Nick: 1:42

We did. That's embarrassing. 

Amy: 1:44

No, it's not. I'm not embarrassed by that. 

Nick: 1:49

Well, yeah, all the guys out there are like how in the world did Nick fail at that? 

Amy: 1:53

I don't think Nick would have failed. I think it was my fault. 

Nick: 1:56

Yeah, so let me explain. So we did a 7-day sex challenge to have sexual intimacy 7 days in a row. Actually, amy brought this up. Amy's like yeah, let's do a 7-day sex challenge. 

Amy: 2:07

Well, we were headed on a vacation. I literally thought we could do it. 

Nick: 2:10

My jaw hit the ground. I didn't. She didn't know if I was like having a stroke or something. I literally was like silence. 

Amy: 2:19

It wasn't a 7-day sex challenge. It was a 7-day sexual intimacy challenge. Yeah, okay, and the reason there's a difference is because anybody can have sex for 7 days. It's just let's just hurry and get it over with. That wasn't the point of it. The point of it was for it to be sexual, like completely intimate, and I'm not gonna lie, by the last day I'm like I just don't want to do it. Tonight I was like totally burned out, Like there is totally too much thing is too much sex. 

Nick: 2:43

Yeah, so we and we did a podcast episode. Is there such a thing as too much sex? I think it got to the point where it was totally just action rather than any connection or intimacy, like I'll be honest for me anyways, the first two or three days was awesome. I felt like it was really passionate Day four or five. It kind of was like okay, let's try something new. And then, by day six I think, I felt like I was just going through the motions and completing the challenge, and Amy didn't, you know obviously didn't feel like it was really connected either. So we're just like you know what that's fearless. 

Amy: 3:18

Let's not just do this if we're like, if it's, I wanted it to be real and raw and honest. 

Nick: 3:23

And I'm like I didn't want to do it. So I guess we only made it six days in a sex challenge. 

Amy: 3:28

But I have seen online where people do like 30 day sex challenges or even more, and I'm like how does that stay intimate and passionate? That just sounds like a checkbox and I don't ever want our life to be like that. Yeah. 

Nick: 3:41

For me, I'm totally happy with two times, three times a week. 

Amy: 3:48

You're totally happy with two times a week, you're totally fine with that because that's what works for us. So, anyways, enough about us. But if you want to go back and listen to that podcast episode about the D, not like detailed details but like the details of why it's important to keep it intimate, that's the whole point of that. 

Nick: 4:05

whole challenge was to keep it intimate and connected and amazing, and not just where it turns into just sex, because if it starts turning into just sex or physical act, it's going to probably do more harm to your marriage than good. 

Amy: 4:16

Totally agree, totally agree. So any husbands out there, this is not what this podcast is even about. This is just our beginning. We kind of rambled, but yeah, so this podcast You've got to find a healthy balance, because it can turn into too much. Absolutely, absolutely. 

Nick: 4:30

But so this podcast episode is the wives who have confessed. The wives have confessed where they really want to be touched and I'm going to be interested to listen to this podcast. 

Amy: 4:41

Because no idea what the answers are I don't I take all the polls and then I never show him. 

Nick: 4:45

Amy just said here's the podcast we're doing. I said okay and I would love to learn something on this podcast episode because I would like to know where you'd like to be touched. 

Amy: 4:54

You already know, but I don't think a lot of husbands know, because I think women maybe are more vulnerable to share it Not straight to their husbands. 

Nick: 5:02

I don't know. I hope they would tell their husbands. 

Amy: 5:04

I'm actually shocked by these answers because I'm kind of different than these women, so yeah, okay, let's hear this thing. I'm kind of shocked by these answers. I asked the wives when it comes to foreplay, what would you vote is best? Okay, so we're talking about just starting out foreplay. What kind of foreplay do these, do the women want? So let's see 27% of our audience that answered 27% said full body massage. Okay, I am going to add my vote to that. 

Nick: 5:41

Yeah, since I can't vote. We do that all the time. 

Amy: 5:44

So I'm going to put that one at 28%. The next one is 21%. Said kissing all over my body. 

Nick: 5:51

No, you like that yeah? 

Amy: 5:55

I throw that on massage Okay, but that's cool, I don't know. 

Nick: 5:58

Put that in the bank, yeah. 

Amy: 6:01

I mean it was only off by like 6%. So ask your wife which one of those they like better. The next one was the winner at 45% Light kissing to heavy make out session Light kissing and a heavy make out Baby steps right just leading on up, and eight percent said just pull out the vibrator please. Oh, I might be in that one too nine percent. So Amy's like I'm so off, amy's like the guy point. 

Nick: 6:37

She's like dude. We don't need four point a night. Nick just bought the vibrator and yeah, seriously, I'm weird. 

Amy: 6:43

That's why you have to take polls, because I'm like you wouldn't want to hear for me. Okay, so then we asked the wives what is one tip you would give your husband about physical touch, slash, foreplay? Okay, so we're gonna jump into the tips that the wives would give and we're gonna talk a little bit about this and our husbands. Take more time. Yeah, a lot of women say take more time. I'm like take less time please. 

Nick: 7:11

Yeah, I'm like babe, let's have a long tron out. I'll give you back row, but thigh roughs, take our hours like, just get right to the point. 

Amy: 7:20

Yeah, so I screw. I thought one. I mean, we're all different, I don't want to take more time. But a lot, of, a lot of women said take more time. So that's the biggest response. The next one said touch me all over. For a lot of husbands who are like super aroused, I don't think they want or Do take the time that they need to take, because it does take some serious heating up, like you've always heard this phrase, men are like microwaves they heat up fast. Women are like crock-pots it takes time and it's slowness, right. 

Nick: 7:54

So remember, that it depends depends on the woman and it. Yeah, yes, I'm, I'm going to interject a little bit so and there are probably some men out there that feel this way. So, talking about, like, touch you all over your body, I'm a physical touch guy. So when I'm touching Amy all over her body, like if I'm giving her, like, a 30 minute massage with our coconut oil, like I am being fulfilled just as much as she is because I'm a physical touch person. So I I'm touching her body, right? 

Amy: 8:26

I'm always like why do you want to give me a massage? So bad, that doesn't do anything for you. He's like oh yes, it does. I'm like well, this is great, yeah, like so. 

Nick: 8:33

I'm getting. I'm obviously meeting. My love language was his physical touch by being able to touch her body and rub my hands all over her body and look at her and Okay. So, anyways there, but there's probably a lot of other guys out there that feel the same way. They just want to touch their wives body and and you know that connection. So so let your husband's give you a nice back row. 

Amy: 8:59

Well, so this is about the women, and the women are saying we like that. Yeah, so women like that. Another lady said be gentle and go easy, touch me all over and please don't rush it. There's another slowdown response. Okay, that's important. Another lady said ask me what I want. Some days I want lots of kissing and touching. Other days I just want to go straight to the vibrator. Oh oh, did you answer that? Does that? 

Nick: 9:23

say does that say Amy? No, no it doesn't. 

Amy: 9:26

It's someone else. She's just like me. We should be friends. 

Nick: 9:28

She's just different screening. 

Amy: 9:30

Oh, the next one is stop going right to the clitoris, thinking that it's going to turn me on. 

Nick: 9:38

They must not have, I wish they could. 

Amy: 9:40

You could see my face. 

Nick: 9:41

They must not like wait what they must not have the Caesar. 

Amy: 9:44

They need our toy. I think. I Think it means a lot to a woman when you're willing to spend the time and not just go straight Unless your wife wants that, like me, not just go straight there and just be like let's just hurry and get you a roust. I think it's very romantic when, when you want to spend the time on it. I think a lot of that's what a lot of women want, so funny. 

Nick: 10:08

I, I'm kind of like the woman in the relationship. 

Amy: 10:10

I like to cuddle after, I like to hold Amy in my arms, I like to talk, I like to kiss and Amy's like, amy's like more like the man, like, alright, let's just get this, let's do this, let's, let's dive right into that's what's so great about being able to share personalities, though, is because it shows it really does show how emotionally connected sex is for a man, like when you admit that to everybody, saying what it means to you and, yeah, how you feel, like before and after, and that you want to slow it down and that you want to cuddle after, like it's not just a woman thing. 

Nick: 10:46

Well, I almost feel like guilty if it's like really quick and to the point, like I almost feel like no, I need to. 

Amy: 10:54

You know, I mean like it may sound like we hear from so many women saying slow down, slow down, slow down. It doesn't have to be slowed down in your marriage unless you want that right like cuz everyone sure, everyone's different, everyone's different. You gotta talk about it. You gotta talk about it. The next response we got was be present, be in the moment, more. You got it really focused right. I don't think that's hard for men to focus on their wife, is it? 

Nick: 11:18

oh heck no. 

Amy: 11:19

Yeah, I didn't think so. That's a woman thing, our brains going all over the place it could be World War three happening outside. 

Nick: 11:24

You always say that, no, I just don't believe that one. 

Amy: 11:28

The next one said spicy and emotional is the way to go. Make it fun and add lots of movement. Mmm, I should have asked her what movement means exactly to her. Take your time, build the tension and show me that you want me. The next one says slow and steady, crock-pot sex. Warm me up oh, they already knew what I'm talking about. Now. War me up, make us feel wanted and show us your muscles. I love it. Yeah, I still think it's only fair that if a woman should have to put on lingerie, so should a man. 

Nick: 12:05

You've never once asked me to put on lingerie, other than, like you say, you look sexy in a suit. 

Amy: 12:11

Okay, well, for me, lingerie is a suit. 

Nick: 12:13

But you've still never asked me to go put on my suit. 

Amy: 12:18

That's because you do it automatically for me and for Sunday. 

Nick: 12:21

Oh, that's true, that's true. 

Amy: 12:23

I just think we're different. We are totally different, but some women are super into their muscles and the six packs and they do like skin, they do like skin. So it just depends on the woman. 

Nick: 12:34

I think like we talked about earlier, like most men are physical touch, but I think there are a few women that are physical touch and the women that are physical touch want that sexual intimacy. 

Amy: 12:44

Want that physical touch, Want that connection Absolutely. I think there's a lot of women that are physical touch. The next thing he said maybe don't go straight for the boobs every time. It's just a man thing. 

Nick: 12:58

Do I go straight for the boobs? 

Amy: 13:00

No, no no, no, but I'm pretty sure a lot of men would. 

Nick: 13:03

I mean, I do like them. 

Amy: 13:05

I mean, men are visual, like we just have to accept that right. Like men, like lingerie, they love your boobs, they love your bottom, they love those things. And that matter what they look like, they love them for who they are, for who they are. 

Nick: 13:17

For who they are. 

Amy: 13:18

For who you are. They love your body. 

Nick: 13:22

Men love your husband, loves your body. Yeah, and the wives should appreciate that. 

Amy: 13:27

They should appreciate that. I mean, yeah, you want to Husbands, tell your wife how perfect and beautiful she is, just the way she is. The next one is slow down, I will get there, it just takes longer than you think. Oh, you need a vibrator. I want to be savored, caressed all over, like you're enjoying your favorite dessert. 

Nick: 13:50

Ooh, Well, I'm not. 

Amy: 13:52

Okay, any guy that thinks that women are not sexual. I get some sexual answers in here. Like, absolutely we are. And I did a post on social media a couple of weeks ago. I think it's at like 100, I don't even remember what it says. It's got like 10,000 likes now or something. It was the simplest phrase and it said something about your wife. Your wife does crave sexual intimacy. She just needs a few things first, and then I listed out some emotional things and foreplay. Like our women are sexual, like most women are sexual, they just need some good foreplay, some good emotional connection, just a few things to pull that side out of them. I really do, I really do. 

Nick: 14:35

Sometimes it's just in hibernation. 

Amy: 14:37

Maybe you just got to find it and bring it back to life. Bring it back to life, use a light touch. So if we get into a little more technique, because the husbands are like, okay, I'm listening to answers, but are you really going to help me? I have heard like taking necklaces and dragging them down into wife's body, or a feather, something light, I don't know just, or silk, or just some kind of other sensations Like just make her feel good, believe me like women can get around us just like you do. 

Nick: 15:11

And when you're touching your wife, put on the lube really early. 

Amy: 15:15

Just start with it. 

Nick: 15:17

Yeah, start with the lube, Because that makes a huge difference as well too. So as you're rubbing your wife's thighs and making your way around different areas, put some lube on down there and get started with that. That makes a big difference. 

Amy: 15:31

Coconut oil is 100% organic, so you could actually just use some on her body and then work it down there and it's going to be safe, like yeah, the coconut oil we use is awesome. Awesome. Um, go slower than you think you need to. I'm going to get some repeats, so I'll just kind of jump over some of these. Don't go straight to the breast. Make it genuine. Let me build up. Be gentle, have a variety of things. I like different things. I don't want the step by step. I can't do it until I can't take it anymore and just need you Start with like oh whoops, I skipped, I went back. Start with light, touching, kissing, make it progressive and more. Build up so I can't take it anymore and I just need you Wink, wink. I think that we're built a lot more alike than we think we are. I think we just need a little more heating up. Right, yeah. 

Nick: 16:21

But getting back to it, you can only get to the heating up part if they're willing, right? 

Amy: 16:28

Which it says sexual. Our main sexual organ is our brain. We have to be in the right mindset. 

Nick: 16:34

So, so. All these are great, but it's getting. How do we get our wives to the point where they want to initiate foreplay and have sexual intensity? 

Amy: 16:45

Or actually even get in the mood. Get in the mood, yeah, absolutely. Yep, we're kind of tricky, we're kind of I mean, that's a little bit huh, so how, yeah, so so we need the emotional connection, and then we need some serious arousal. 

Nick: 16:58

So you're a woman, you're the low desire you you don't like physical touch, so you're like a lot of the typical women out there, right? 

Amy: 17:09

I don't know. I think so yeah, so what? 

Nick: 17:12

what things gets you in the mood, what things turn you on and or, or and I know a lot of it is just being willing to do it right, like knowing that, hey, even if I'm not in the mood right now, I know I can get in the mood, like what, what? 

Amy: 17:29

what kind of changed my brain to be in like I'm willing, yeah, I'm willing. 

Nick: 17:33

Like what works for us, cause obviously it works for us, but you are the type of woman that has the same feelings or emotions or tendencies. 

Amy: 17:45

I could be the kind of woman which is like I'm too I have too much on my mind tonight, or I'm too tired tonight, or I'm too busy. 

Nick: 17:50

Yeah, you could. I could definitely be like that, but I'm not yeah. 

Amy: 17:54

I think and this could turn into a different episode, but I think it's because I step back and watch how amazing you treat me, how much effort you put into just being a good husband and a good father, and I care about your needs too, which is what, on social media, a lot of people express my wife doesn't care about my needs, or my husband doesn't care about my needs, like. I think. When you find that ultimate like respect for each other and you really have that desire for your marriage to be passionate and awesome and not mediocre anymore, you have to care about your spouse's needs. And there are so many things that Nick does that I don't want to do in our marriage and so many things that I'm willing to do that maybe you know what I mean that mean a lot to you. I think it's all compromise and love. I just I don't know. I think when you love someone, you're willing to do things, but not even okay. so then, okay, let me keep going, though, because I don't want you to think ever that I do it for him. Sexual intimacy is supposed to be amazing for both of you, and that's another key play is that you make sure that I am always feeling good. I always have orgasm. It's always amazing for both of us, like that is very, very important, because if you didn't, I'd be like this is just for you. I don't want to do it. 

Nick: 19:14

Yeah, and I think that's key right. 

Amy: 19:17

That's key. So, as a husband, you have got to be willing to spend that time, spend that time on her body, once the emotional is already there in your marriage, and and really spend time on the foreplay and the arousal and talking to your wife like what feels good. Let's experiment, let's make sure that you're taking care of every single time. That's going to change everything, because sex was designed for both people. 

Nick: 19:41

For sure. 

Amy: 19:41

It is for both people. Your speech was well set Okay. 

Nick: 19:47

Very well said. 

Amy: 19:48

The next question I ask the women is what really turns you on in your marriage? 52% said physical sexual touch and foreplay. I was completely shocked by that. I thought it was going to be all emotional and romance. It was. 52% was physical sexual touch and foreplay. 

Nick: 20:10

Yeah, that's crazy. That's awesome, right, I would have thought it would be totally something different. That's awesome. 

Amy: 20:14

So that kind of tells me that a good majority of marriages are already emotionally connected and strong and doing well right, because they're even fulfilling this aspect of their marriage. The next one is speaking my love language to me got 26%. So a wife gets really turned on 26% when the husband knows their love language and is trying to speak it, which is giving her the quality time helping her, complimenting her, buying gifts once in a while, just those physical touch, just really trying right. That's showing effort and I think women feel loved with effort. The next one was 17% at Amazing romance, which could almost go hand in hand with the love language, right For sure. Because I kind of feel like they go hand in hand. And only 5% said I don't get turned on, all my desire is gone. That's awesome. I love that answer that, only I don't like the 5% but I'm glad it's not higher right. I'm glad it's not higher. And then I asked the question to all the women what could he do better at to get you to crave being intimate? And this is where most men are like I just I don't want my wife to just be intimate, I want her to crave being intimate, right Like that's the solution we're trying to figure out. 

Nick: 21:35

Every husband wants. 

Amy: 21:36

Okay, so these are the wife's answers. What is it going to take for for me to really crave being intimate? One lady said romance, spending quality time together. So remember, we've got two categories. It's usually either like sexual, physical, or it's like love. Language slash like romance. Right, because they're similar. That's another one like the romance category Spending time together Take me somewhere, literally turns a fire on Um. Does that mean like a hot date? 

Nick: 22:07

I think yeah maybe just a hot day. 

Amy: 22:09

Do it something different. 

Nick: 22:11

Night away. Yeah, just getting out. 

Amy: 22:13

I'm hinting at it more throughout the day rather than just after the kids go to bed. Hinting at it more throughout the day? Yeah well, I totally agree with that. I'm just thinking like what men could do better at, because I'm trying to give advice, maybe hinting at it through the day. It's not saying that do more around the house or do more with the kids, it's just hinting at it. Probably flirting, Flirting a text, something romantic, a cute love note. Is that what we're talking about? 

Nick: 22:45

I think so. 

Amy: 22:47

Another lady said I need to hear him tell me that I'm beautiful and desirable and my husband refuses to do that. That breaks my heart. That breaks my heart. Please compliment your wives, whether that's her love language or not, should be happening naturally. Understand who I truly am. That's emotional connection. Gotta be happy, strong emotional connection. You gotta talk to each other. You gotta stay curious about each other. Playing around and touching me all the time, pulling me close, pulling me close and then kissing that's what I would add to that. Let me know in plenty of time that he's feeling frisky hours ahead before we be getting and then a cut off. So same thing, just like kind of like a romantic gesture during the day or something right. 

Nick: 23:33

Let me know you're in the mood. 

Amy: 23:34

Let me know you're in the mood, Telling me how much he wants me. Someone who is excited to share something. Let's see someone who's excited to share something you don't share with anybody else. 

Nick: 23:47

I think that's what's so awesome about sexual intimacy is you are at your, like, most vulnerable. You're bearing it all. You're sharing your emotions, your feelings, your fears, your sexual desires, like you're at a completely vulnerable place, and that's something that only two of you do and share together, and I think that's why sexual intimacy is so connecting. 

Amy: 24:14

Yup, perfectly said. The next one is be kind, gentle, gentle, loving. Let me know I'm safe, cherished and desired. That's pretty much every woman's dream. That's all we want. 

Nick: 24:27

Be desired. 

Amy: 24:28

To be desired, just like the husband wants to be desired. But also I like the part let me know that I'm safe and cherished. I love that Connection before sex to feel like I'm special to him. Conversations, date nights yeah, talk about it all the time. Emotional connection first enhances the physical connection. We say that like every podcast Absolutely go hand in hand. Talk to me. That one's simple and I'm gonna add put your phone down and talk to each other. Like you can't have good, emotional, intimate conversations if you're distracted in any way, right? Another wife says when he talks me up and says wonderful things about me, it makes me crave him even more. I love that Slow sensual touch under my clothes until I'm craving him. So I'm just gonna add like sometimes when we're like watching a movie, like not naked Nick's looking at me, like naked date night no, not naked movie night. 

Nick: 25:30

I know where you're going With clothes on, cause she just said she said clothes on, yeah, that's what she said. Yeah, so I know where you're going. 

Amy: 25:38

Sometimes like you'll be watching a movie and your hands will kind of creep up and you could tell if your wife's gonna like mentally be in the mood or not. 

Nick: 25:47

If she slaps your hand away or she rolls over the other way, or or sometimes she might actually be like okay, I like this. 

Amy: 25:55

Being romantic during the day already said he really is wonderful. I'm always down for more thoughtful romance, though Prioritizes me above sports news notifications and other distractions. That's gonna go both ways For sure. Like if you just put your phone down and look at your wife in her eyes and be like you're so beautiful I'd much rather look at you than my stupid phone she's gonna melt. She's gonna melt. You don't have to do that cause you're not addicted to your phone and you don't even have social media. Last one I'm gonna read is do less of my turnoffs and I'm much closer to being turned on when the start line is neutral. I'm just gonna take that one as keeping the mood good during the day. Right, like no one's, unless you're having like makeup sex, which we don't do because we don't fight. But like if you you're not gonna be able to be sexual, intimate and romantic and connected, usually if you've had arguments during the day, right? 

Nick: 26:59

For sure. You just gotta keep that love going. Yeah, I don't even know what makeup sex is. I've heard of it, I've heard of it, but I have no idea what it is. It's cause you don't argue, but that's okay. 

Amy: 27:08

You are a passive person, I'm not complaining, you don't argue, you don't fight, you're just like borderline. Let's just talk about it, babe. Let's just talk about it, right. 

Nick: 27:16

Through that. 

Amy: 27:19

What did you learn? I put Nick on the spot cause I'm out of survey answers. Yeah, I wanna know what you learned. 

Nick: 27:27

No, I've learned a lot, but I think what I learned, I think I already know about you and know how our marriage works, right. So I think, yeah, it was helpful. But I think again, I know how our marriage works, our relationship works, so it was interesting to me to hear how many women want the physical touch and want that. I would have been not interested. 

Amy: 27:53

Yeah, that 52% of wanting the physical, intimate, sexual over the romance was different. 

Nick: 27:58

I never would have guessed that it would have been that high. So I think that's really neat. There's a lot of lucky guys out there. 

Amy: 28:05

So I would say what I got out of that is we always say emotional connection first, but I think deep down inside most wives have this sexual switch that they want you to turn on, they really want you to turn it on and that takes that closeness and that vulnerability and that love language, like those things. But I think they're right there. I really I was impressed by those answers. 

Nick: 28:28

Yeah, I thought they were great. 

Amy: 28:30

And if you need more technique tips for actual like Like. I was so surprised that not more women said focus on the clitoris. Like you didn't hear any examples like that, because that would have been my advice. Like the clitoris is where it's at, but I apparently know, not in the majority. 

Nick: 28:49

I think you're right and yeah, if you need some great techniques, most of you probably have the app, but go into the techniques section and the ultimate intimacy app and there's tons of great techniques. There's tons of articles and how to and so many of the things that we talk about here in the different podcasts that we do. So if you haven't already downloaded the app, go check it out at ultimateintimacycom. 

Amy: 29:15

And if you are actually looking for more technique and like direct information, like on the clitoris and arousal for women, go back to the episode we did on. 

Nick: 29:28

I think it might have been like 33 or 31. One of those in the 30s? Yeah, the clitoris is the key to unlocking female pleasure. 

Amy: 29:36

But we did just talk more about like the body and arousal anyways. 

Nick: 29:42

It was a really good episode. It's a great episode, yeah, because the clitoris, for many women, is really the key to unlocking female pleasure. 

Amy: 29:49

So yeah. So if I'm gonna done this down to like basic woman arousal 101, we'll call it emotional intimacy, love, language, romance, the beginning, right. Then some soft touch, foreplay, touching the body, kissing, whatever your wife says she likes. Take your time, take your time and then focus on when she is aroused or she's ready to get to that point. Then it is all about the clitoris. That is the key to sexual arousal. It is Like we talked about in the episode. 

Nick: 30:23

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