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222. Games To Play Naked.. The Benefits Of Implementing "Naked Game Night" Into Your Relationship
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You've all heard of our NMN (Naked movie night), but what about naked game night? What are the various legit benefits to naked game night? How can naked game night improve my marriage?
We answer all of these questions in this podcast episode talking about the benefits of implementing naked game night into your relationship.
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Naked Game Night Benefits for Couples
Speaker 1You are listening to the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast, where we discuss how to find ultimate intimacy in your relationship. We believe that, no matter how many years you've been married, you can achieve passion, romance, happiness and ultimate intimacy at any stage of your life. Join us as we talk to not only marriage experts, but couples just like yourself and people who are just flat out fun. The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast is for couples who have a good relationship but want to make it even better Naked movie night, but naked game night.
Speaker 2I mean, this is something we've done for a very long time. I admit we haven't done a whole lot lately, but we used to do it all the time, yeah before we had kids, before we had kids, that's right. It's maybe a little tougher to have naked game night when you have kids running around the house.
Speaker 3It is. You have to play it later when they're all asleep. Yeah, it's harder, but it's okay. But you still can.
Speaker 2It's one of the great benefits of naked game night. Amy and I just when we played naked game night, we're just laughing and talking and joking and having the time of our lives, so we're going to share those with you of why you need to do it in your relationship.
Speaker 3I told Nick that we needed to take a break from the serious topics and do something a little more fun, Because he's got a list of all these serious things and I'm like no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Yeah, we need to lighten marriage up a little bit.
Speaker 2Yeah, and she does this in our relationship too. So right, we lighten things up. Yeah, sometimes I get a little too driven and just a daily structure. I'm definitely more structured, Amy's more of like let's do this.
Speaker 3Let's go play golf. Let's go. We need to get out, we need to get out.
Speaker 2That is true.
Speaker 3So, jumping in, you want to talk about why first, and then we're going to give you some game ideas.
Speaker 2Yeah, I think that's great. So here are the reasons why Naked Game Night is such a good thing to do in your relationship. Obviously, first of all, increased intimacy. When you're naked together and staring at each other, feeling comfortable and vulnerable around each other, that's going to foster a deeper connection and deeper intimacy.
Speaker 3Yeah, and it's a tough one because I know a lot of wives that probably were on their eyeballs. I am not visual like my husband. Some of these games are going to be kind of comical because the guys are like yes, yes, yes, yes, I love this idea. And the women are like really, you haven't birthed children. I have stretch marks all over.
Speaker 2I was just going to say. I think it's just as vulnerable for a guy sitting there naked, like I mean.
Speaker 3Yeah, what. I'm trying to say, though, is most women don't really want to see that, and that's why it's more vulnerable. So maybe these ideas that we're going to give you, maybe, if you feel more comfortable, it's lingerie game right Until a certain point, of course.
Speaker 2So the clothes are coming off.
Speaker 3But yeah, well, I guess we're going to jump into body positivity in a minute, so I won't jump into that. But yeah, being vulnerable and just I don't know, of course that's going to light some romantic sparks. If you're playing a game naked, right, yeah.
Speaker 2And being vulnerable is obviously going to help with your communication, which is the next one. So you're going to have better communication. When Amy and I are playing you know, naked game night, like, we're talking a lot, we're having fun, we're joking around, like yeah.
Speaker 3It's fun, right, and if you haven't tried it like the first time, you might feel really awkward, especially if you're not used to being naked in your marriage. Like I think there's a lot of couples that are like walk around naked like no big deal, Like us, Like that doesn't bother us because we're used to it. But if you're not used to that like I've had some friends that are like my husband hasn't seen me in the light in years it's really sad because a husband would do anything for that right. Yeah, and you're right.
Speaker 2I mean the more you do anything, the more comfortable you're gonna become. So it is a great way just to kind of like just be out there and feel comfortable. Like Amy said, we we see each other naked all the time, right, the more we see each other in a comfortable and fun setting, the more comfortable we kind of become, right. Then it's like no big deal.
Speaker 3Well, unlike you said. I like that. You said you be vulnerable in that way and you can be vulnerable in every other way. Our friends at Transparen couples gosh, we need to get them back on the podcast.
Speaker 3He gave a quote one time that says you have to get naked to get naked, and what he meant it was deeper than that. Like you have to be vulnerable and get naked to really have that open, naked kind of marriage. Right when it's, where you're comfortable with each other, where you're vulnerable, where you can be honest with each other because you're you're both you and you both love who. You is right, does that make sense? So I don't know. I love that quote because I'm like you really do have to like, let everything out in order to be fully vulnerable in your marriage. And when you get to that point, that's when the sex talks and the romance, that when when you could start really expressing what your needs are and your fantasies or emotional needs. If you can start, if you can get naked together, you can probably discuss stuff right. It just helps. It just helps.
Speaker 2Yeah, I love the next one. So enhance sensuality. Many of you have heard from our experience like that, when we created the app and we were playing first, testing and playing the games not not only then, but obviously the the first couple times, playing the intimacy game on the app like was the best love making we've ever had at least I would say that Because we have gotten comfortable doing the same thing, right.
Speaker 3Yeah, exactly we haven't stepped out of the box to try other positions or try other things to spice it up, so it was a little bit like whoa.
Speaker 2Yeah, but you're exploring, depending on the game, you're exploring each other's bodies. You're getting to know each other on a much deeper level. You're going back and forth while you're playing the game, so you're you know there's different things going on, you're changing things up, and so when you're playing games and doing these things, it creates a different way or different sensuality, which can be really amazing for sure depending on what game you're playing.
Speaker 3So well, and obviously game night is going to be super visual, right.
Speaker 3Correct, yeah like the biggest sensual. But I had a lady the other day that was like I don't really feel comfortable doing that, like I just I don't have great body image, which we'll get into, but I was like sometimes game night can be played by candlelight too, if you're not like I don't want full lights on doing this kind of stuff. You know like there's always a way to tone the lights down or start somewhere and maybe lights can increase for sure, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2Well, the other thing it does is it builds trust. I mean kind of getting back to when you're very vulnerable with each other, you're playing games naked like it's gonna build a lot of trust with each other and we're not just talking bedroom games, we're gonna get into just having fun games and turning them more sexual, right like just the everyday games that can be sexual.
Speaker 3I don't know.
Speaker 2There's a fun way to spice up pretty much every game that you own, for sure, right for sure, and and that's the whole point, like you said, spicing up the relationship, playing a game, doing something new, trying new things, something that's different, can really spice up the relationship. For sure, and, and you need to, you need to spice up the relationship, but getting into body positivity, okay, yeah, what are your thoughts on that? I mean, and I think, I think this goes both with men and women.
Speaker 2I agree like if I'm feeling like I'm packing a couple extra pounds on or things like that, like I'm obviously gonna be more conscious about my body and how I look, and things like that.
Speaker 3And that's the thing is like I think a lot of women are like, oh, I don't have the best body image, like I kind of want to hide behind my clothes, but sometimes your husband's kind of feeling the same way. I think that men can be just as hard on themselves as women can be, don't you think?
Speaker 2Yeah, and it's amazing when, like when you kind of drop that issue, so to speak, like if you're naked in front of each other and you're like, hey, this is who we are, and you start feeling comfortable around each other, it's amazing how much better your sex life will get and just many, many other aspects. Right, because you feel more comfortable. And when you feel more comfortable around each other, it's going to impact a lot of things in your relationship.
Speaker 3And that's what I wanted to talk about was confidence, and self-esteem is very attractive, right? So when you kind of rock the body that you have, you're like this is me, you picked it, you committed to this, like I'm awesome, like heck, yeah, check this out Pounds or not, pounds or stretch marks or whatever you've got on that beautiful body you've got.
Speaker 3Just rock it and I think that you'll find that your spouse is super attracted to that confidence and probably the fact that you're willing to be intimate and be naked is going to be way more attractive to your husband, I would think, because men are very visual. That doesn't mean visual, that it has to be like a perfect, perfect body.
Speaker 2They just want to see you.
Speaker 3They just want to see you naked. Like they probably have different eyeballs than you think, they're probably not judgmental eyeballs. They're probably like I love you for who you are. Absolutely, and I love that you want to be open and naked and intimate with me, like that's what most men find attractive.
Speaker 2Absolutely, totally agree, totally agree with that. The next one is stress relief. I know when Amy and I were going through some of the hardest times in our marriage and stuff. This obviously is a great way just to forget about things, have those lighthearted moments, playing games together. It can be a great stress reliever, especially as so many of us are going through stressful things like just in life right now, right With the economy, a lot of people are struggling. It's so important to pull yourself out of those things and do some fun things together that can really help stressful situations.
Speaker 3And playing games is cheap. You don't have to go anywhere, you don't have to pay any money, right? You pick something out of the board game closet and you make it sexy. That's really what you're doing, right? Exactly.
Speaker 3You're just creating a way to spice up any game that you already have. So, yeah, it's super important, especially after you have kids and everyone's going to be like, well, how do you do that with kids? Well, you adjust your schedule. You play games later, maybe you don't have to play them naked, but you make some naked dares for after the game, when the kids are asleep, like you.
Speaker 2Definitely it's about it's about intention, right? Amy and I would always have bets. We'd be like all right, the winner gets to pick what they want tonight, whether it's a massage or so on many of the nights that Amy would pick a massage, she miraculously would just win. And then I found out she was cheating all of it, just wants, just wants.
Speaker 1No but we played.
Speaker 3We had a game night the other night. It was just a card game at friends and none of our friends knew that there were some intimate bets going on between me and Nick. But when we got home we knew the whole night of fun was going to actually end up being a little passionate, which which is fun, Like sometimes, you have to adjust to the circumstance.
Speaker 2So they were wondering why Amy was getting so competitive.
Speaker 3Yeah, I'm like, I'm not typically a competitive person, that's right?
Speaker 2Well, the biggest benefit, in my opinion, is the fun and laughter Like we've heard we've talked about this before in past episodes, but that laughter is the best medicine Like there is nothing better for your life than laughing and having fun. There really isn't. And if you're playing naked game night, you're going to have a lot of laughter, a lot of fun.
Speaker 3I mean, keeping the spice in your marriage really comes back to doing fun things like you used to do before you got into a routine lifestyle, right Before you had kids and big careers and stress and lots of things on your plate. You probably played some games when you're dating and falling in love and when you first got married. If you were like us, we played a lot of games when we were first married and it was fun. So it's like it's just important to remember to add those little simple things into your marriage at all stages.
Speaker 3So this one's just really simple to do.
Speaker 2Yeah. And then the final one is great foreplay. Like how can this not be like the funnest foreplay ever? Like sitting next to each other by the fire or whatever, playing naked game nights, laughing, having fun, tickling each other, just having a great time I hate being tickled. Well for some people tickling each other yeah.
Speaker 3Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2It's all about intention, so what are some fun game nights that we recommend, amy and I?
Speaker 3Well, some of these we looked at, we had to like get some ideas from other people because, yeah, we're kind of like. The people are like oh, I like my three games. I'm not big on expanding, but the first idea that popped up was make a twister, which sounds a little. I don't know about that one.
Speaker 2The guys might like that more than the women.
Speaker 3I don't think the women want to see that hanging in places. I'm sorry, man, you're attractive, but that area is not super attractive to women mostly. Yeah, I mean, maybe you played in some boxers and laundry, I don't know.
Speaker 2That's right.
Speaker 3I don't know like twister, though like I'm old enough now to be like. I don't know if I could twist myself like that anymore.
Speaker 2That's true. I might just like end up on the floor, that's true, might end up injured. Anyways, make a twister. Make a twister if you're in your 20s, if you're in your late 40s, like me.
Speaker 3You've had a bunch of kids, maybe not.
Speaker 2Yeah, probably.
Speaker 3I don't know.
Speaker 2Another one people like is strip connect four.
Speaker 3I haven't played connect four since I was a teenager, or maybe younger. That's a fun game though.
Speaker 2Yeah, it is. I agree. That's a fun game you can make it funner, though.
Speaker 3That's the whole point. Funner is not a word. You can make it more fun.
Speaker 2More enjoyable.
Speaker 3You can make it sexy. You can make lots of games more sexy.
Speaker 2That's right, amy, and I have talked about developing a flash card positions match game.
Speaker 3Yeah.
Speaker 2So that would be a fun one.
Speaker 3Oh yeah, you could actually use our cards card deck that we have and do that, yep.
Speaker 2So you do flash cards and pick a, get the positions to match. Our favorite is probably rummikub. Yeah, you said it right I did, because I've said it wrong so many times.
Speaker 3For 22 years he's called it rummikub.
Speaker 2I'm like I don't know who's right, but I shouldn't say I mean, that's our go to game. I shouldn't say it's my favorite because I lose 99% of the time, but that's a fun one.
Speaker 3But if you lose, you're still winning, that's true, if you make it a sexy game. You lose, you still win.
Speaker 2You obviously have the ultimate intimacy truth or dare game. The reason why we like this game so much is because it incorporates everything right. Like you're sharing your deepest, like dares, You're sharing things maybe you don't normally share. You're laughing.
Speaker 3It's emotionally connecting.
Speaker 2Yeah, you're combining both the sexual and the emotional, so that's absolutely one of the great games. Strip golf. Now, we're not talking about going on the golf course and playing naked. However, you can do that, no don't do that. You just might get arrested.
Speaker 3Don't do that.
Speaker 2But strip golf, that's a card game, right.
Speaker 3If you haven't played the card game golf, look it up, maybe on YouTube. It's really simple. Even our youngest has been playing it for a year, since she was. I think she was like probably five when she learned it. But it's easy to learn, it's easy to pick up. You can play it with a couple people, just the two of you, and you can make it sexy by, I mean, the rounds go really quick, so you can make it a strip game.
Speaker 2Yep, obviously you have strip poker or strip UNO.
Speaker 3Strip UNO. Everyone knows how to play UNO. I don't know how to play poker. That's embarrassing.
Speaker 2I don't think I'd do either.
Speaker 3That's embarrassing.
Speaker 2Anyways, or a lot of you know those are. Those are kind of the games you could pretty much.
Speaker 3Take Candyland. Of all games, you could take any game and make it sexy. You either play it naked or you make it into a strip game. You win that round. You take off a piece of clothes, I mean, or maybe you lose, I don't know. However, you want to play it, or you can add a bet, you pick the position, or you pick a massage or whatever you want to do intimately tonight. The winner gets to pick, like things like that.
Speaker 2Exactly the best part about it is have some sort of bets right To make it fun, to make it enjoyable. And for those of you out there rolling your eyes and saying, OK, this sounds lame, just give it a try, Give it a try.
Speaker 3One night.
Speaker 2Let us know what you think.
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Speaker 3One night. Just be like. We're going to act like newlyweds again. We're going to play a game tonight. I guarantee if a wife would tell a husband we're going to play a strip game tonight when the kids are asleep. That would make his life.
Speaker 2Would make his life.
Speaker 3He's like I'll play freaking Candyland. I don't care, yeah Right.
Speaker 2Exactly, exactly. So, like I said, instead of rolling your eyes, give it a try and, most importantly, see how you connect as a couple in all the ways that we talked about. Like we really think that this is going to be a lot of fun. Bring a lot of fun and excitement and passion and connection vulnerability into your relationship.
Speaker 3I can guarantee that you're going to get done and you're going to be giggling because you're like that is either amazing or really stupid, and your husband or wife are going to be like let's do it again.
Speaker 2Let's do it again, and then it's going to turn into a tradition, like Friday nights. That's right, right, absolutely. So let us know what you think. Don't be shy, send us some emails, just not any details, but just let us know how it helps your marriage. So we hope you enjoyed the podcast. Until next time. We hope you find ultimate intimacy in your relationship.